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During our PRIDE classes which are required by the state of Missouri we discussed many required topics.  There were definitely times when we were given the opportunity to ask questions but you don’t really know what you don’t know.  In hindsight I wish I had communicated what my hopes were for when we finished the class so I could have gotten feedback. 

In a rather unorganized way here are some of the minor but time consuming glitches that have happened as we have been trying to finish up our requirements:

  • Our case study worker was a contractor and therefore very busy working another full-time job. 
  • When our case study was sent from the worker to the offices there were additional questions they wanted answered as well as additional information that I had to gather and turn in.  I think this is probably always going to be the case to some extent. 
  • The paperwork went to the licensing worker and it was discovered that the child abuse and neglect checks had not been done on Brent and I for Oklahoma where we formerly resided or on Nicholas in Iowa where he lives while he is going to school.  They immediately requested ours and I had to send the paperwork to Nicholas at school to fill his request forms out.  He then received the forms and didn’t get them filled out but brought them home with him days later, I filled them out and had him sign off so I could mail them.  We were told that Oklahoma had given a possible four week time span for the paperwork to come back so that definitely blew having children by the holidays which was disappointing but fine.  We received Nicholas’ results a couple of weeks later and then found out that Oklahoma doesn’t even have a registry so it was noted in our case study and that part was complete.  What could we have done differently:  keep track of all forms filled out and make sure that you see that the results were received by the licensing agency.  Our agency gave us a list regularly of what was still outstanding but I did not do any comparisons to make sure nothing had slipped through the cracks.  Make copies of every single thing you turn in to the agency and keep it all organized.  We were asked for our first aid cards just this week.  They had been copied way back when we took the classes but there was an inside portion that was not copied and is critical to showing what training we received.  Thinking we would not need them again I have misplaced them so I had to call and request duplicate cards.  This could have been avoided in two ways:  I could have made sure that I provided complete copy in the first place instead of just bringing the cards and having the office copy them and I definitely should have done a better job of keeping track of the cards just in case.
  • We  got together on January 15th a month later than we expected to sign all our paperwork.  This included contracts with both Missouri Baptist Children’s Home and Cornerstones of Care.  The paperwork for COC was actually an application, which surprised me.  I had no idea before that that there was anything but signatures required.
  • I had been scoping out photolistings for months and had my list of children I wanted to get information on or submit my case study for possible matching for adoption.  I contacted our licensing worker after we signed the paperwork and asked (silly me) about when we would receive a copy of our case study.  She basically replied that we don’t receive a copy and that our case study was not an “adoption” case study it was just a foster care case study.  Needless to say I was a bit disappointed, frustrated, etc.. .  It seems that we do need to take the required Spaulding classes and have that information (maybe more) added to our case study to bring it to that point.  I believe we could, and have, receive information on children within the state of Missouri but not out of state.  I decided to take this as an indication that we should just go ahead and start to foster and see what children  God sends our way.  It may be that we only foster and it could be for the next two years or ten.  One step at a time.
  • If I had it to do over again I would definitely emphasize more that I wanted an adoption home study if that was my goal. I would also have put less of a limitation on my range of ages for children accepted.  I kept hearing that sibling groups could be placed even outside your listed range, ours is ages 6-12 but my licensing worker has already told me that she prefers that the full acceptable range should be listed from the beginning.  This is an area I have definitely flip flopped on throughout the process.  My thoughts were initially that I should only accept school aged children because I work outside the home but  it sounds like most of the time children would be in child care situations anyway so they would not suffer undulybecause I had to take advantage of the same system. 

I am learning more every day and I am sure just as my perspective has changed many, many times during this process it will continue to do so.  We are signed up for all the training we can find including the Spaulding classes and  are praying for wisdom and strength for the challenges to come.  We covet your prayers and appreciate so much all the support that has been given.


Even though we had all our paperwork turned in and contracts signed we really cannot receive cases without a DVN. According to our Licensing Worker ‘The DVN is your vendor number and means you are State approved.” I am learning as much since our classes ended as I was before just in a different way. You just don’t know what to ask, there is so much information. It reminds me of an extremely stupid/dangerous/painful stunt that I pulled when new on the police force. It is hard to imagine once you know more that you could have ever been so stupid or viewed a situation in the way that you did. As a reminder one of my goals was to record our foster care journey on this blog. That is why I have been rather detailed as to requirements etc…lately I have been discouraged so I did not want to discourage others from following this path. That is the last thing I would want to do. I have not been documenting some of the bumps in the road because of that. Now that I am seeing things more clearly I will try to catch up so to speak and will let you know the gory (not really) details so stay tuned.

We signed our homestudy and contracts tonight. We are officially foster parents with Cornerstones of Care/Missouri Baptist Children’s Home. We are signed up for Traditional Foster Care, Respite, and Emergency Care.

I visited a blog today that had some inspiring posts.  I was intrigued by the 1950’s budget menu “challenge.”  There are lots of food dollar stretching ideas in the blog and comments from readers. I recently found a $45 Emergency Menu for 4-6 at Hillbilly Housewife and it tempts me to use it the same way as an experiment.  At least it should save some grocery dollars as we recover from our Christmas buying and entertaining.

Here’s another great group of articles:  How to Live Well on Less

Outside in Kansas City~No snow or ice in sight, a pleasant 40 degrees.

I am thinking~That we had a wonderful holiday season but getting back to normal will be a relief.

I am thankful for~God’s plan for our redemption, family, my hard working husband.

In my kitchen~All is quiet, an abundance of food in the cupboards, we are blessed.

I am wearing~Blue long sleeved Knight’s t-shirt, jeans, slippers.

Last creative endeavor~ Cooking, wrapping, grouting the bathroom floor, shopping. 


Pre-Christmas Wrapping Frenzy

I am going~To attend the Midwest Foster Care and Adoption Association training tomorrow night. 

Can’t wait for~The finalization of our case study so we can submit it to caseworkers for adoption of possible sibling groups like this one.

Family News~Lillian just turned one on December 29th, Nicholas is off for winter break and is visiting friends in Wisconsin and Minnesota.

Beautiful Lillian

Beautiful Lillian

Current Read~ The Dead Don’t Dance by Charles Martin

I am hearing~Commercial on television, front door closing as Brent takes Ruby out for a walk.

I am hoping~To get some exercise and  lose some weight during 2009.

Around the house~The tile in the bathroom turned out great, it is a really pretty “slate look” ceramic tile with greys, greens, and a touch of copper.  We used mocha grout and it looks really good.  Brent and Nicholas also laid carpet tiles in the downstairs and it turned out great.  Brent spent New Year’s Day organizing the garage!


Preparing to grout


Pre "Mocha" Grout

Simple pleasure~A hot cup of chai and a good read.  Two weeks of no school, no sports, holidays off, more time with family and friends a more orderly home with completed household projects. 

Plans for the weekend~Vision meeting with the school council on Saturday.  Sunday night birthday party for our beautiful granddaughter Lillian.

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